From the book “Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think” I’ve learned that people who know themselves and how others see them:
- Are happier,
- Make smarter decisions
- Have better personal and professional relationships,
- Raise more mature children,
- Are smarter, superior students who choose better careers.
- Are more creative, more confident, and better communicators.
- They’re less aggressive and less likely to lie, cheat, and steal.
- They’re better performers at work who get more promotions.
- They’re more effective leaders with more enthusiastic employees.
- They even lead more profitable companies
If this is true we definitely should try to learn to know who we really are. How? By running psychological tests for example like Big 5 or MBTI (Myers Briggs). Just knowing that I am INFJ on the Myers-Briggs test helped me to understand why I love what I love — namely mentoring others. Do you ever run such tests?
Anything you Want
Anything you Want by Derek Sivers is a great book that helps to design a new team or a new company. I really like how Derek describes the process of creating personal utopia when building a new team or a new company.
One of his tips is to not appear busy to others:
Never be the typical tragic small business that gets frazzled and freaked out when business is doing well. It sends a repulsive “I can’t handle this!” message to everyone. Instead, if your internal processes are always designed to handle twice your existing load, it sends an attractive “come on in, we’ve got plenty of room” message to everyone.
How does your team appear to others? Approachable or busy?
It all sends out a message.
I Love You
A great quote by Neil Strauss — the author of The Game and The Truth. People don’t always say I love you, sometimes it sounds like…
Fear and Anger
Here’re two fantastic quotes from the book Awareness by Anthony De Mello about fear and anger.
The first reaction is one of fear. It’s not that we fear the unknown. You cannot fear something that you do not know. Nobody is afraid of the unknown. What you really fear is the loss of the known. That’s what you fear.
How does this one make you think? Do you think it’s true we can’t fear what we don’t know but we rather fear the loss of the known?
The next quote about anger is exactly what I wrote about in the first part of this newsletter. It’s about the importance of knowing my own emotions and knowing why they appear.
When you got angry with somebody, were you aware that you were angry or were you simply identifying with your anger? Later, when you had the time, did you study your experience and attempt to understand it? Where did it come from? What brought it on? I don’t know of any other way to awareness. You only change what you understand. What you do not understand and are not aware of, you repress. You don’t change. But when you understand it, it changes.
For me, meditation is what helps me the most understand my own emotions and their origin.
Have a great day,
PS: What is it that you take out of this newsletter? Also tell me your personality type. Tell me how running personality tests helped you understand who you are.
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